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#personal 12 Jan 2016 · · words

Don't Argue with Me


Nope. Don't even start. I don't want to hear it. I don't want you to tell me your opinion on this topic that I didn't even ask you about. I don't mean on the topic of arguing. I'm talking any particular topic on which there are multiple opinions on. All topics. Probably. 

I'm incredibly non-confrontational. Even if I have a problem with someone, I will not jump in their face and scream what is your problem?? Well maybe if I was driven straight the edge of insanity, but what can I say, I haven't arrived there yet. 


It is in this incredibly non-confrontational trait that I find the act of arguing abhorrent. A small quip here and there, on topics that are as important as your favourite pizza topping or funniest scene in Harry Potter (book or movie). A discussion of sorts. With no reason to get heated. 

There are only a small amount of topics of which I would actually get fired up about. Even so, at the same time I don't wish to endlessly go on about it. 

Have you ever participated or witnessed a quarrel, an angered disagreement, that has ended in one party with changed ideals, converted to the other side? No matter how petty the subject, if one is animatedly insisting their side of this is correct, well they're just not going to switch as soon as they hear your side of it. 


Some people get wound up over the tiniest of things. One petty argument I've been present at multiple times is that of the location of the bottle of tomato sauce. Growing up, where did your parents keep it? In the fridge or in the pantry? The bottle actually says keep refrigerated. But many people have had pantry tomato sauce all their lives, and well they're fine aren't they!

Even though I can see this is more of an amusing kind of argument, with very little backlash, I have witnessed way too many situations where people have moved the damn bottle of sauce around, at other people's houses, to match their own belief of where it should be. 

Good god. My family kept the sauce in the pantry, my partner now keeps it in the fridge. I do not care even slight nor have I ever participated in this god awful pointless argument that persistently takes place. 

Even at the solid evidence that the packaging states it belongs in the fridge after opening, not a single person who wants it in the pantry has changed their view. If this is not a perfect example of arguments never making any progress or having any effect then I don't know what is.

Arguing with someone who is determined to have the last word is a nightmare. I mean there's no end game. You just have to walk away, while they are still talking. This troubles them, they still have many good points to cover! If you leave they will be sure that they have defeated you. Weakened, you have run out of rebutting statements, which means that they are correct. David Hyde Pierce as Cecil was the best guest star on The Simpsons. But they are wrong. It was Meryl Streep as Jessica Lovejoy. 

At the end of the day, why are you bothering? The only thing worse than arguing in person, is doing it online. People are a lot braver when they are hiding behind a keyboard and screen. If I post something that gets a dickish annoyed response. Wow I why did you just, do you think I want to talk to you about this, would you just like a louder platform to prove your point. Deleting my comment is the online version of walking away. 

Sorry, I've got other pointless things I could be doing to waste time. Like playing Animal Crossing.

Cya xx



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