There's a boutique that I go into every now and then where the girls who work there say hi and say that they love your outfit today! Now I have been known to put together a cute outfit every now and then, but on these particular days I was dressed reasonably average. Not to mention that the comment has happened more than once. Meaning that this is just a thing that the shop girls say to customers.
We've all seen Mean Girls when Regina compliments that girl's skirt and then mocks her behind her back. It's our worst nightmare to receive a compliment that's disingenuine, whether it's to try and flatter you in a store or to poke fun at you once you turn away.
I also work in a boutique where I often compliment customers on various things. I can honestly say that I have never complimented anyone on something and not meant it. It is often for selfish means though, I love your shoes where are they from! I'm not just trying to make conversation, i'm going to go jot down the name of that store. I'm always on the lookout for new fashion pieces and spotting them on girls down the street is often where I find the best stuff. Having the excuse of being a shop assistant is the best reason to start a conversation so I can hopefully discover where you scored that cool bag.
I know this is about ladies complimenting other ladies, but my boyfriend and I have an understanding that he will only compliment me if he genuinely means it. Girls he says nice things about me and to me and I get lots of compliments all the time and they mean so much more because I know that it's what he honestly thinks. He's good with outfits and I can ask him if these shoes look weird with this or what jacket do you think would work the best.
Having a boyfriend like this comes in handy that's for sure! He never disses me or puts me down though so keep that in mind, because that's not okay, or what this post is about. Fake compliments are not okay... even if you just want to make the other person feel better. Do it in a different way.
If you got a million compliments everytime you knew you looked pretty crap would you start to think maybe you don't look crap? Or would you think the compliments are bullshit. Come on it's okay to look like shit sometimes and know that you do. I don't need someone trying to butter me up while i'm in my track pants and Harry Potter sweater, all covered in cat hair.
What I'm mostly trying to say is, get out there! Say nice things to other babes about their hair and makeup and what they're wearing. But only do it if you mean it! No one cares if you keep your mouth shut. You're not offending anyone by not complimenting their outfit. It's easier to tell if someone doesn't really believe what they're saying.
If you've ever complimented me and I've awkwardly blurted out a compliment back, it's not a sudden grasp at finding something to say, I've probably been thinking it for the past 20 minutes and was caught off guard with a good opening to tell you!
Have you ever had a compliment from someone and been suspicious? Or have you ever complimented someone at work or out and not meant it? Tell me in the comments ! xx