Why I Unfriended You

26 April 2015

Firstly, people take social media waaay too seriously. They rely on it to feel connected and a social part of society. While at the same time studies are showing that social media is making us depressed as we now are able to compare ourselves to others 24/7 and feel like crap if our witty status didn't get as many likes as you would have hoped.

If you look at my own personal facebook page, the last thing I posted as a status was just hoping everyone was safe in the awful storm that recently hit my hometown and a large chunk of NSW. My facebook page has my workplaces,  but not their whereabouts, a vague mention of my city "Newcastle" and my relationship status. Yes you can google me and find out things, but most of that you'll probably learn from my blog.

Ignoring the fact that I now use Facebook to promote Permanent Procrastination, I use it to keep in touch with friends. Friends by the rough definition of people I actually like and want to keep in contact with. People seem to have a hard time with Facebook, too many people can see their things, (change your privacy settings people!) unwanted comments on posts, (privacy settings again) and then people in real life who you either don't have on Facebook or potentially people who don't even have a Facebook, know what you're up to. Which is just downright creepy.

Now while I can't stop my elderly family members calling each other up and chatting about how I went to see some movie with my longterm partner and seemed to have a good time. (There's worse things that they could be rambling about) I can stop people that I seriously don't like or have no interest talking to from seeing any of my business.

Every now and then I like to scroll through my all of my Facebook friends and ask myself a simple question.

Would I smile and say hello to this person down the street?

It seems dumb but do you know how easy it is to accumulate people on Facebook that you would physically avoid if you saw them in person. Do you actually want those people to know anything about you at all? Because I don't. Screw those guys! People like that only want to know things about you so that they can talk about you to others in some sad jealous way most likely. 

If I don't want to talk to these people in person I definitely don't care what's happening in their lives and could care less if they knew what was going on in mine. I have just over 220+ friends on Facebook and I don't think that your personal profile is a social media site where you should just be collecting people. 

So to answer the opening question, If I don't (or wouldn't) talk to you in person then I don't want you on Facebook.

Cya! xx

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  1. This is such a good post! I'm pretty private on Facebook, I don't make mention of where I work (obviously close friends know anyway), don't link my blog and don't post about overly personal stuff, but it still really annoys me when you have random people add you that totally blank you in person! The worst for me is work colleagues, again I try and not post all that much but I still get snide comments about things I do/places I go. I only have a small number of Facebook friends (just under 200) but my boyfriend has more than 1500, and they see everything! I hate that literally thousands of strangers I don't know see my/our business! Argh!

    Lucy x

  2. I honestly could not agree with you more here - while I think Facebook is great, there is no reason why I should be seeing updates from people I went to high school with, particularly if we were never close, and especially if they're writing offensive things. I deleted a good portion of my Facebook friends a couple of years ago, and it's so refreshing when you don't see any more inane updates from people you have nothing in common with!

    Tessa at Bramble & Thorn

  3. I totally know what you mean. I somehow have 720 friends on Facebook - what. I do not need that many, I miss out on my friends actual posts because my newsfeed is filled up with crap and then I realise, hey I should just call them anyway! Ah. I am going go to on an un friend rampage very soon. x

  4. Omg, I know how it feels. I don't unfriend people but I sure do change my privacy settings every time I post. I get depressed when I look at other people's success based on their photos. I know they're just proud of it but I can't help feeling down. That's why I try to avoid Facebook most of the time.

  5. I don't have a facebook anymore, I deleted mine a year ago because it just became something my mom could stalk me in and teenagers like me headed over to some non-adult territory. Still though, I try to avoid people on Social Media if I wouldn't talk to them IRL either. Great post <3

    xx Bash | Bash Says Hey | bloglovin'

  6. People definitely take it all too seriously and have a completely different perspective towards people. I never use my Facebook if I do it will only be for 10 minutes max! X

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  7. This is an awesome post.
    The reasons you stated are why I made a new account, I keep this one sole for friends/family that I actually want to stay in touch with and use my other one essentially as a spam account, this is the only one I have thats searchable but my personal one I have by invitation only which is nice.
    N. xoxo | coconicole | twitter

  8. I enjoyed reading it!! Great post.
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  9. People take social media too seriously. Especially from what I've experienced on Twitter! If you're writing a tweet and someone reads it the bad way and assumes it's about them! When in fact it wasn't about them or even an unfollow! Haha I agree completely with what you're saying about facebook I hardly use it myself but I dislike all the silly competition of liking & not liking!

    Serene xoxo


  10. Oh I couldn't agree more. I recently had a whole lot of old school friends send friend requests... people that I haven't spoken to for a LOT of years, and really don't want to. So I deleted them. I don't need numbers. Real friends count :)

  11. This is so true! I like to have a Facebook "Spring Clean" at least once a year! I think you hit the nail on the head with the line "would you stop and talk to them on the street"!

    Rock On Holly

  12. Loved reading this post! I wrote something similar on my blog not too long ago! Would love to chat and share opinions :)


  13. I couldn't agree more! I don't do this every month but try to do it every year. That is probably bad in itself! Half the time people become consumed with numbers like ohhh I have 700 'friends', but in reality they are strangers. Love this post :) xx


  14. I totally agree, I've been meaning to have a clear out. I'm sure nobody on Facebook likes each other really it's so weird. Definitely going to tackle my friends list when I get a chance


  15. I had a big cull of my Facebook 'friends' the other day, there were people on there I'd met once like 3 years ago and have never spoken to since and they really don't need to know my business! x

    Josie’s Journal

  16. I get what you mean. I deleted FB when I was at uni and I received so many texts asking why I had deleted them. It was a personally attack - I just didn't want to use FB anymore…I have FB now and I want add anyone who I don't actively see. Just because we went to the same school doesn't mean I have to have you on FB.
    Rant over.

    Jenn | Jennifer Jayne

  17. Unless someone is being super annoying with posts I don't agree with (in a way that they're entitled to post their opinion, but others are entitled to agree or disagree - not saying the other person is completely wrong!), I probably won't unfriend them haha. I'm trying to be a more outgoing person because I do love to learn and interact with people, so chances are that even if we met once I'll say hi when we pass by. Heck I'll probably even say hi to the people I unfriended :P

    becky ♡ star violet

  18. I love this post, definitely agree with you! I like to have a cull on a regular basis, I don't really see the point in being friends with people I barely speak to xx


  19. I agree with you completely on this one. I had a few of these cleaning out sessions, as well. For a while, especially when I started college, there were so many friend requests coming my way. I did not know 90% of those people. Even worse - I actually met only a handful. I have no idea how the rest of them found me.
    Whenever I see a person with 500+ people, I just wonder what they are doing. There is no way one can be even acquainted with that many people. And what's worse, they're sharing their privacy - the photos, relationships, intimate details... - with complete strangers. I never understood why someone would do that to themselves?

    xoxo Milka

  20. I'm the same, tidying up my friends every now and then. I try and keep it to people I will see regularly and family.

    Cadaea | Cadaea.Blogspot.com

  21. I love this and when it comes to FB I'm the exact same, great post x
    Danielle ||Miss Sunshine & Sparkle

  22. The older I get, the easier for me to cut out toxic people in my life. It feels great, actually! :)


    ROUGH & TOUGH☯ // I`m on Bloglovin! // IG: @jiaachacruz

  23. This is so true! I've been meaning to clean out my facebook for a while!
    The worst part of coming from a tiny village is that you are bound to insult someone.... good thing I live in Japan.


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